can it stop ?

Do you worry about what will happen to you when he comes home? Are you afraid of waking up each morning knowing that you'll probably get a beating from your husband?

 There is a way to prevent domestic violence. The first thing you should do is "get out and stay out". By that I mean to get out of the relationship with the person that has intentionally harmed you. And by "stay out" I mean to stay away from the person that has abused you. This is the smartest thing to do when your in this sort of problem. If you stay with the person that has hurt you they'll know that they've gained all the control over you and thinik that they have more power. If they know they have more power and the control over you then the beatings will continue. Another solution can be to speak up and tell someone. If you never tell anyone why you have so many brusies and scars they'll try and "dig it out of you" - they'll keep questioning you until you tell them. So its better to tell someone than to make them guess whats going on. If you tell someone they will help you out of the situation immediatly. So if your going through domestic violence know that you're not alone. Someone out there will help if you make the right choice. THERE ARE WAYS TO STOP IT!

everyone around you harmed too?

I've seen family violence happen before and it has changed my family permanantly. Ever since the fighting started we started to become a broken family. Everyday all of us kids would be so scared of our parents physically hurting each other. No one knew the reasons that they were fighting for. Some of us were to young to understand what was going on but i knew exactly what was happening. As they faught with one another i would cry and think to myself "did i do something wrong to make my mom and dad fight?" We didn't know what was going to happen to our family . Later, they decided to get a divorce because things weren't working out.

    Every member of  the family is afected from domestic violence. Family violence creates a home where children live in constant fear. Children that witness family violence are affected in ways similar to children that are abused. They are often unable to make a relationship with both parents. Children that have witnessed domestic violence show more anxiety, low self esteem, anger, and temper problems. The things they experienced can show up in emotional, behavioral, social and physically disturbances that effect their development and can continue until adulthood. They have a fear of abandonment or personal injuries. They often feel like their family is broken. Their behavior has a major change. They isolate themselves and its hard for them to trust anyone. We should care about domestic violence because everyone around you is affected by it. You may not know that but it does happen.

violence everywhere !




Men hit women to gain control.

They also think hitting people makes them srtong.

 

Domestic violence is common in the Pacific nation. Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or keep power and control over an intimate partner. Abuse is physical, sexual or emotional actions or threats that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone. Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. I personally experienced this happen to my parents. I would watch them fight and scream at each other. Later it got to a point that was too serious and they ended up getting a divorce.



  Everyday in Hawaii, more than 50 women are physically or emotionally abused by their spouse. Somes signs of people that have experienced domestic violence is depression or unusual reactions, receiving harassing phone calls, excludes themselves from friends and family, and frequent absences from work and/or school. Also 12% of Hawaii's population reports experiencing intimate partner violence. 1 in 16 women experience intimate partner violence around the time of their most recent pregnancy. Women with less education and little money are reported to have a higher rate of intimate partner violence. Did you know 1 in 8 high school students report experiencing intimate partner violence.